Highlights
- Pleiades
- Playtime
- Pouter or Pleaser?
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Inner Child
In her book Taming your Outer Child, Susan Anderson describes the Outer Child as the behavioural “evil twin” of the innocent Inner Child within all of us.
She explains how we abandon our Inner Child early in life by taking on the beliefs of others, internalizing criticism, conforming, belittling and blaming ourselves. We continue to abandon ourselves as adults when we give in, silence ourselves, stuff down our true values, ignore our intuition, and sacrifice our integrity in jobs or relationships. The Inner Child has generalized needs- to be loved, to feel valued, to have fun etc. The Outer Child is the part of us that over-indulges, pouts, overreacts, self-sabotages, throws a hissy fit, demands instant gratification in specific ways, gets addicted, puts own demands first without care for the greater cost. In cartoons, Outer shows up as a little red devil whispering temptations in our ear. Self-care is reviving our authentic Inner being through (not so random) acts of wellness. Self-indulgence, however, is ego driven, detrimental and demanding.
Practice makes Progress
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My goal is to clean my kitchen. Outer distracts me through procrastination, convincing me to take a break and watch TV after dinner instead of doing the dishes, luring me to check my emails, complaining why nobody helps me and convincing me there is too much to do and it will never get done anyway. I will set the stove timer to work for 20 minutes- 20 min of washing dishes and 20 min of TV. I will remind Outer that if we focus for a short time, we can get a lot done then play in peace later. |
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sacred stones for the soul 